8 April 2018

How to deal with changes

A lot of things have been changed in my life the past month. I went through a rollercoaster of all kinds of emotions, good ones and bad ones. One month later, I'm feeling so happy and grateful. 

Hang out with friends
This was the thing that helped me the most, being surrounded with friends. Don't sit at home by yourself whilst drowning in your thoughts, go out and have some fun. Even when I wasn't really feeling like going out, I pushed myself to do it. I forced myself to put on some nice clothes, to do my make-up and have some fun. When you're in a tough situation, you'll know who your real friends are and I am so grateful to have such amazing people in my life.

Talk and realize 
Talk to someone about how you feel, about everything that's happening. Because I had so many emotions at the same time, I wasn't always able to think clear. That's why I talked about everything to a good friend of mine who's always real and honest to me about what she thinks, which gave me more insight on everything that was going on. 
Another thing that was very important for me to deal with this whole situation was to understand it. Realizing why all those things happened. Once you realize and understand everything, you'll be able to put it into perspective. 

Motivate yourself 
The most important thing of all is that no matter how hard your life has been changed, you'll have to motivate yourself. Grab yourself together and go on with your life. Set yourself some new goals and do whatever it takes to achieve them. Changes can be hard but it can also make you stronger. 


  1. I'm having a really hard time with the "motivate yourself" part. How do you keep going when you think you fucked up everything and lost everything you worked for? Talking helps but I feel like there will always be a void in my heart that will never be filled again. It doesn't matter I guess, it's like you said in a previous post, just set goals and go for them. But I don't see how achieving my goals will hide the feeling I have inside.

    Thank you for inspiring me.

    1. Ask yourself the question 'What would I do if I could do anything?', this isn't only about goals you want to achieve but also about things you could maybe fix. Why do you think you fucked up everything and lost everything? Ask yourself those questions, find the core of the problem and do something about it. Sometimes you can solve things out, other times you can't. If you truly believe that you did everything to fix it and it didn't work out, let it go.
      Remember that you own your own mind and that you're the only person who has the choice to feel bad or not, to feel empty or not.